What IS Orgasmic Birth?
Orgasmic Birth can be the blissful waves in between contractions. One can enter this altered state and ride the waves of sensation, expanding into pleasure and increasing sexual energy and the hormones consuming one’s being.
Riding the wave creates a peaceful, total body sensation that lingers as energy is exchanged between you, your baby, and your partner. Birthing in love is a state of filling your entire body and being with oxytocin, the love hormone, and surrendering to the power within.
Dr Sarah Buckley writes in Ecstatic Birth: The Hormonal Blueprint of Labor, “Such high levels (of beta-endorphins) help the labouring woman to transmute pain and enter the altered state of consciousness that characterizes an undisturbed birth.”
I believe in and trust that the body that grows a baby knows how to birth the baby.
I believe it is every woman’s human right to have a pleasurable birth.
It all comes down to how you define it. I define my orgasmic Birth as a heightened sensation – that moment of release and feeling your baby slide from your body into your arms. I think that every Birth has that orgasmic element.
Orgasmic Birth is to give Birth with and in love, to move through labour with power and to honour the emotional and physical heights that labour holds. Childbirth is an opportunity to experience the extraordinary miracle of bringing new life into the world and Orgasmic Birth provides the conditions to reclaim and honour that miracle.
Labour and Birth take women to the depth of the unknown, to face their fears while pushing through the intensity – releasing and riding the waves of our body that with the right conditions and comfort can bring women to the peaks of joy, pleasure, and hormonal ecstasy.
Orgasmic Birth is all these things – the orgasm, the ecstasy, the hormones, and the love – and that is why it is so amazing.
Creating the Film
When I was filming “Orgasmic Birth: The Best Kept Secret” documentary, I witnessed many beautiful, pleasurable, powerful, and orgasmic births.
The original concept for the film WAS to show that Birth can be an empowering and pleasurable experience, but what surprised me was when the labouring mamas were able to birth in their power, surrounded by love, support, care and respect, that their births were dramatically more pleasurable too.
I had witnessed many births as a doula – I knew that this was possible, but the wave of pleasurable and even orgasmic births that took place during my filming process was extraordinary.
When it was time to name the film, I knew we had to make a bold statement — Birth, under the right circumstances, was an ORGASMIC EXPERIENCE!
Debra Pascali Bonaro — Founder, Orgasmic Birth
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Orgasmic Birth – The Best Kept Secret
We haven’t had a language for it before. People who have positive, pleasurable, joyful, loving, intimate, ecstatic, and orgasmic births often don’t tell anyone. They don’t want to make their friends feel bad about their challenging birth. Many people that experience an orgasm, or what I call a birthgasm, often never even tell their partners or friends out of shame and certainly don’t tell their midwife or doctor. When people started telling me about their birthgasm, they often admitted they had never told anyone before. It was the most expansive orgasm ever. It is a feeling of being one with the universe or divine energy moving through them as pure love. Waves of pleasure instead of pain.
Let me be clear: orgasmic birth is not a performance standard. Orgasmic birth is much more than orgasm, and I will explain more later. I would never want anyone adding birthgasm to your birth preferences. I feel it is essential to know it happens both for those without ever knowing it’s possible and for those who prepare for and encourage the opportunity of orgasm in birth. Nature puts the clitoral complex in the same areas involved with childbirth. There must be a reason for nature’s design. Orgasmic birth happens for those who never describe their birth as painful. It can also follow pain and challenge as labor involves riding many waves of sensations and emotions. There is so much more available in birth than we’ve been told.
The Science of Orgasmic Birth
While creating the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret and interviewing many experts, the science I had longed to find began to appear. One of the experts in the documentary, Dr. Sarah Buckley, wrote an important report on the Hormonal Physiology of Childbearing: Evidence and Implications for Women, Babies, and Maternity Care.
Check out The She Births® Show Podcast we recorded with the fantastic Debora Pascali Bonaro — Founder, Orgasmic Birth
Join me as I talk with fellow birth educator, doula and extraordinary filmmaker, Debra P. Bonaro.
If you have done She Births® then you know that her documentary is one of my absolute favourites – and I recommend everyone watches it as education towards having a better birth.
Debra is the Director of the award-winning documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret and co-author of the accompanying book
She is an international speaker and chair of the International MotherBaby Childbirth Organization, Co-Chair for the International Childbirth Initiative, (ICI)
Debra has spent over 30 years teaching families, doulas and caregivers in over 40 countries about bringing comfort, love and pleasure to birth and life!
We talk about the birthing of her creative projects as well as her advocacy work. The power of birthing with more pleasure.
The importance of inviting pleasure into your pregnancy as well as your birth – and the 12 Steps to Safe and Respectful Mother Baby-Family Maternity Care created by ICI that will help every woman around the world have a better birth experience and perhaps ensure that you two get the care you deserve from your provider.